Tokyo Nights
Life In Tokyo - Neil Stalnaker
Tuesday, November 01, 2005
Connecting (3)
so.....i've spent the last 13 years connecting with people. last year, i played for 3 months at the new york bar and after every set, the band went back into the stairway next to the kitchen (the most disgusting conditions i've had in 25 years in the music business) to hang-out. sometimes i did that also. but, i just couldn't go back there so much. i wanted to stay in the club and talk with people.

i've been perceived two ways because of that. some people have told me that they think i am so great with people..connecting..meeting ..talking with people that are enjoying the music. others have said they think i'm a playboy or the word the japanese like to use is sukebe (often used as a derogatory term to mean playboy).

i'm aware of all of this. but, it doesn't really matter to me. i'm operating or living on a level that is much deeper than what the critics can imagine. i'm not angry. i just know that if they knew what i know, they wouldn't be making comments and/or criticizing me behind my back.

maybe some it is jealousy. maybe it's fear....fear that they have in connecting with people. resentment....maybe....maybe they want to be more sociable..but..maybe it seems impossible.

on some level, i think my desire to connect with people (as a result of having cancer) and my desire to be a creative artist that wants to bring happiness and feelings of love to others through music is part of the same thing.